I understand and find this so much easier said than done. We must sometimes realize abusive relationships exists regardless of the attitude we possess. Sometimes we have to forgive “shake off the dust “ and continue our purpose. Family and relationships can be a tool the enemy uses to keep us held back or focused on instead of sharing the gospel. I do not consider it quitting or losing in those situations as long as there is genuine forgiveness in your heart. Do you believe verbal abuse and manipulation should just be tolerated? I get there will be another mountain behind this one but I think sometimes you will have to walk away.
well, an abusive relationship is something completely different. it is not within your control if someone is abusive. it is within your control if you stay in a relationship with an abuser. forgiveness ≠ relationship. sometimes we forgive in our hearts, but have to move forward without relationship.
forgiveness is a decision we make. restoration is a process much more than a decision. we teach people how to treat us, so if we tolerate abuse towards us, then that is how people will treat us.
the difficulty i’m talking about is internal. a person may be in abusive relationship, or experience some kind of difficult, but they should not allow their outlook on life to be dictated by that situation. going through a difficult thing doesn’t entitle us to have negative attitudes. being abused by a person is very difficult, but it doesn’t give us a license to see every new person we meet as a potential abuser.
the point i’m making is that we should not allow a situation we find ourselves in to dictate our emotional state. that doesn’t mean that we stay in abusive relationships when we have the power to leave. if we have the power to exit an abusive situation, we are foolish not to!
Perhaps I am referring to a restoration process. It is very difficult to stay calm in situations where the person you love is purposely trying to hurt you. You can call it out, pray for them but it is impossible to change them. Every decision you make will be twisted into an attack. It is no surprise that courts and mediators exist. Sometimes it seems impossible to be civil in situations. Of course Jesus is the ultimate teacher in this situation. How he took every beating and yet had love and forgiveness in His heart. This can seem like an incredibly difficult regardless of our attitude. As much as I can heed this message putting it into practice is a process that is difficult. Even taking it one day at a time. Not everyone is able to handle situations the same. I believe this is why we need a church body to lean on and share in support. Thanks for replying!
absolutely! ultimately, it never should matter what “they” do. you’re always in control of your thoughts, attitudes and actions at all times. and those are the only things you can control. their response is not your concern. all you can do is what you know to do based on your values and let God handle the rest.
I understand and find this so much easier said than done. We must sometimes realize abusive relationships exists regardless of the attitude we possess. Sometimes we have to forgive “shake off the dust “ and continue our purpose. Family and relationships can be a tool the enemy uses to keep us held back or focused on instead of sharing the gospel. I do not consider it quitting or losing in those situations as long as there is genuine forgiveness in your heart. Do you believe verbal abuse and manipulation should just be tolerated? I get there will be another mountain behind this one but I think sometimes you will have to walk away.
absolutely. simple ≠ easy.
well, an abusive relationship is something completely different. it is not within your control if someone is abusive. it is within your control if you stay in a relationship with an abuser. forgiveness ≠ relationship. sometimes we forgive in our hearts, but have to move forward without relationship.
forgiveness is a decision we make. restoration is a process much more than a decision. we teach people how to treat us, so if we tolerate abuse towards us, then that is how people will treat us.
the difficulty i’m talking about is internal. a person may be in abusive relationship, or experience some kind of difficult, but they should not allow their outlook on life to be dictated by that situation. going through a difficult thing doesn’t entitle us to have negative attitudes. being abused by a person is very difficult, but it doesn’t give us a license to see every new person we meet as a potential abuser.
the point i’m making is that we should not allow a situation we find ourselves in to dictate our emotional state. that doesn’t mean that we stay in abusive relationships when we have the power to leave. if we have the power to exit an abusive situation, we are foolish not to!
Perhaps I am referring to a restoration process. It is very difficult to stay calm in situations where the person you love is purposely trying to hurt you. You can call it out, pray for them but it is impossible to change them. Every decision you make will be twisted into an attack. It is no surprise that courts and mediators exist. Sometimes it seems impossible to be civil in situations. Of course Jesus is the ultimate teacher in this situation. How he took every beating and yet had love and forgiveness in His heart. This can seem like an incredibly difficult regardless of our attitude. As much as I can heed this message putting it into practice is a process that is difficult. Even taking it one day at a time. Not everyone is able to handle situations the same. I believe this is why we need a church body to lean on and share in support. Thanks for replying!
absolutely! ultimately, it never should matter what “they” do. you’re always in control of your thoughts, attitudes and actions at all times. and those are the only things you can control. their response is not your concern. all you can do is what you know to do based on your values and let God handle the rest.